mommyof2
how old (if ever) was your child on the binki, and how did you suceed in getting rid of it? my child is 20 months which I feel like he is way to old for a binki and im restricting it but I find that it will be very hard to accomplish
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Not sure what a binky is, never heard of it before! Am assuming it's a blanket./ muslim, and if so I think at 20 months your child is just fine to keep using it and needing it as much as she wants. I work in a day nursery in the preschool room; 2yrs 9mths to nearly 5, and some of the younger ones bring in their muslim every day (they do have to leave them in their drawers, but they come to nursery holding it), even some of the older ones bring in the same muslim or soft toy every day. If she needs it in her hands ALL the time I would maybe think about trying to stop her reliance on it. A good thing with this age group is to create a story around the situation. Maybe one of her toys is sad and feeling poorly, tuck him up in bed with her muslim and leave him to sleepp for a little while, then provide an exciting activity for her which involved 2 hands- making biscuits? Go back and check on the toy when you are done and he will be feeling better! The importnat thing is to decide how much you want to do it, and if you're not sure how much she relies on it, maybe suggest it as a question, if she starts crying and you don't want that then say, no, that's not a good idea, and try something else. If you have her give muslim to her toy and then she cries and then give it back you have made it harder for yourself in the future. If you feel she must let go of it for periods, and she cries, then distract her, again, with a pre-prepared fun activity, and she will learn to be without it. We have a new child who has a bear she sucks and I'm afraid we have made her do without it at meal times and cooking activities at nursery because it actually has mould on it! She cried at first, but now she's fine and very happy!
If you want her to go without it completely- maybe in a few years, then a good game is, again the story- fairies need it to make blankets for their babies with, the pirates need it as their ship has lost it's sail- whatever you know will excite her. Give her a special box/ bag to put it in remove it in the night and replace with a suitable gift- fairy wings for dressing up or a pirate hat!
Good luck, and remember not to worry too much, she won't be taking it to school with her, she'll not want to look like a baby, and for now, it's fine!
Not sure what a binky is, never heard of it before! Am assuming it's a blanket./ muslim, and if so I think at 20 months your child is just fine to keep using it and needing it as much as she wants. I work in a day nursery in the preschool room; 2yrs 9mths to nearly 5, and some of the younger ones bring in their muslim every day (they do have to leave them in their drawers, but they come to nursery holding it), even some of the older ones bring in the same muslim or soft toy every day. If she needs it in her hands ALL the time I would maybe think about trying to stop her reliance on it. A good thing with this age group is to create a story around the situation. Maybe one of her toys is sad and feeling poorly, tuck him up in bed with her muslim and leave him to sleepp for a little while, then provide an exciting activity for her which involved 2 hands- making biscuits? Go back and check on the toy when you are done and he will be feeling better! The importnat thing is to decide how much you want to do it, and if you're not sure how much she relies on it, maybe suggest it as a question, if she starts crying and you don't want that then say, no, that's not a good idea, and try something else. If you have her give muslim to her toy and then she cries and then give it back you have made it harder for yourself in the future. If you feel she must let go of it for periods, and she cries, then distract her, again, with a pre-prepared fun activity, and she will learn to be without it. We have a new child who has a bear she sucks and I'm afraid we have made her do without it at meal times and cooking activities at nursery because it actually has mould on it! She cried at first, but now she's fine and very happy!
If you want her to go without it completely- maybe in a few years, then a good game is, again the story- fairies need it to make blankets for their babies with, the pirates need it as their ship has lost it's sail- whatever you know will excite her. Give her a special box/ bag to put it in remove it in the night and replace with a suitable gift- fairy wings for dressing up or a pirate hat!
Good luck, and remember not to worry too much, she won't be taking it to school with her, she'll not want to look like a baby, and for now, it's fine!
binky or thumb?
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My three year old who is entirely too old for a binky has taken to sucking her thumb since I took her binkys away. Not only am I worried this may be worse for her mouth, and I can't take it away like I can the binky, but she is getting sores on her thumb from sucking on it hard over night. Should i give in and giver her back the binkys for a bit longer? Or should i stick to my guns and let her ruin her teeth and her thumb? Any other ideas?
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My son did this. He's now 2 years old with a binky. We can't break him of it even more now because he thinks "if they take them away for a while, they'll eventually give them back".. I regret giving them back to him at all costs and often feel like I'll never break him of it.. again.
I think if you've conquered the binky-break, you should now conquer the thumb-break, but NOT by giving the binky's back.
Stick to your guns. If you see her sucking her thumb, try to distract her-- or you could buy that nasty tasting stuff to stop nail-biting called "THUMB". But I wouldn't worry about it too much, she'll eventually grow out of it.
(I have heard thumb ruins teeth more, but only if it's super excessively) Good luck!
My son did this. He's now 2 years old with a binky. We can't break him of it even more now because he thinks "if they take them away for a while, they'll eventually give them back".. I regret giving them back to him at all costs and often feel like I'll never break him of it.. again.
I think if you've conquered the binky-break, you should now conquer the thumb-break, but NOT by giving the binky's back.
Stick to your guns. If you see her sucking her thumb, try to distract her-- or you could buy that nasty tasting stuff to stop nail-biting called "THUMB". But I wouldn't worry about it too much, she'll eventually grow out of it.
(I have heard thumb ruins teeth more, but only if it's super excessively) Good luck!
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