Q. My 20 month old still sucks on her binkies at night and bed time and whenever she has a hard time. How can I get rid of binkies without inturupting her sleep? Her doctor says they are starting to pull her teeth apart. They are not available for her all the time and she can't get them when ever she wants. She just got a little brother and now wants them when ever I have to do things with brother. Any good ideas are welcomed.
just so you know... My son that is 2 months old has different binkies and she will still his if I don't keep them and him out of her reach. How do i stop that as well?
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Hey, this is an issue I'm dealing with as well, but my daughter is now closer to 3 than 2. She became a big sister 7 months ago, and is also in the middle of potty training, so I'm not completely taking it away from her yet. Here's what we do: I have a little basket hanging in her room called "The Binky Basket". Every night when she goes to bed, I wait for her to ask me for one, and I give it to her. In the morning, she knows that we put the binky in the binky basket. Now she's gotten into the habit of saying "Time to put the binky in the basket" every morning! When she cries or is having a hard time, I make sure to give her lots of hugs, and I try to distract her with a song (something with fun movement like Itsy Bitsy Spider), a story book, a phone call to daddy at work or maybe to grandma. She has learned to tell me where her "boo-boos" are, and wants me to kiss them. Sometimes I'll give her a sticker or a band-aid to put on them. Basically, I just try to think of things that make ME feel better when I'm getting overwhelmed or frustrated or tired--she usually likes the same things. I know it's hard with a new baby, but make a point to spend special time with her every day--through that special time you'll develop little inside jokes and things that you can pull out when you need to comfort her in a pinch.
About the teeth thing--I was told not to worry about that too much. One of my friends has a 6-year-old who had this problem, and she said the teeth went back to normal as soon as the binky went away, and that her doctor told her she shouldn't worry about it too much since they're baby teeth and they'll fall out anyway. But I live in the south, and doctors aren't always reliable here--so I'm still not sure. All I know is that I don't want to pressure my daughter to drop the binky right now because she's going through so many other big changes. I guess I figure braces will be better than having to give her therapy! ;)
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how old (if ever) was your child on the binki, and how did you suceed in getting rid of it? my child is 20 months which I feel like he is way to old for a binki and im restricting it but I find that it will be very hard to accomplish
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Not sure what a binky is, never heard of it before! Am assuming it's a blanket./ muslim, and if so I think at 20 months your child is just fine to keep using it and needing it as much as she wants. I work in a day nursery in the preschool room; 2yrs 9mths to nearly 5, and some of the younger ones bring in their muslim every day (they do have to leave them in their drawers, but they come to nursery holding it), even some of the older ones bring in the same muslim or soft toy every day. If she needs it in her hands ALL the time I would maybe think about trying to stop her reliance on it. A good thing with this age group is to create a story around the situation. Maybe one of her toys is sad and feeling poorly, tuck him up in bed with her muslim and leave him to sleepp for a little while, then provide an exciting activity for her which involved 2 hands- making biscuits? Go back and check on the toy when you are done and he will be feeling better! The importnat thing is to decide how much you want to do it, and if you're not sure how much she relies on it, maybe suggest it as a question, if she starts crying and you don't want that then say, no, that's not a good idea, and try something else. If you have her give muslim to her toy and then she cries and then give it back you have made it harder for yourself in the future. If you feel she must let go of it for periods, and she cries, then distract her, again, with a pre-prepared fun activity, and she will learn to be without it. We have a new child who has a bear she sucks and I'm afraid we have made her do without it at meal times and cooking activities at nursery because it actually has mould on it! She cried at first, but now she's fine and very happy!
If you want her to go without it completely- maybe in a few years, then a good game is, again the story- fairies need it to make blankets for their babies with, the pirates need it as their ship has lost it's sail- whatever you know will excite her. Give her a special box/ bag to put it in remove it in the night and replace with a suitable gift- fairy wings for dressing up or a pirate hat!
Good luck, and remember not to worry too much, she won't be taking it to school with her, she'll not want to look like a baby, and for now, it's fine!
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