help with binkys?

christina

okay my daughter is 3 and i cant get the binky away from her, ive tryed to put holes in them, she just wont give them up.

I dont let her bring them out in public but when bed time hits she needs it. I dont even think she sucks it i think she holds it and like sqeezes it. Any suggestions

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take all of them from the house and THROW them away. when she asks for it tell her that the binky fairy came and took them away, but she left you a present in the place of them.get her a small present and wrap it up then hold it out to her and say your a big girl now so you have a choice i can call the binky fairy and have her bring it back or you can have this fun present.she will probably say present.but before i give it to you i want you to know that once you open this the binkies are gone forever do you want the big girl present?she will probably say yes and then let her have it. she will more then likly play with it for a while and then tire from it before BED TIME DUNDUNDUN! so heres what to do. at bed time she will probably ask for binky and then you say this.okay remember you chose that fun toy over the binky. binky fairy took your binky and gave it to a very sad baby that needed it.your a big girl now and dont need binky you have ( whatever toy you got her) .then leave the room and NO matter what dont give into her when she cries because she will.!!!this will probably go on for a week or more but soon she will forget binky.remeber the binky fairy DOES NOT give refunds!!lol. i really do hope i helped. her teeth are developing and night time is the worst time for her to have it.
GOOD LUCK AND HOPE I HELPED!!

One month old and binky question?

Baby Kaide

My son is 5 weeks old and is very attatched to his binky. He is on formula now, and ever since I brought him home from the hospital he HAS TO have the binky in his mouth to be content. I have tried to soothe him rock him to sleep so he doesn't have to rely on it to go to sleep., He wants it even when he's awake just to have in his mouth. The problem is it flies out of his mouth all the time. Does any other moms have this problem? He can't keep it in his mouth. He is using the newborn first years soothie binkys. I'm constantly having to put it back in 100 times a day and night. because he SCREAMS as soon as it comes out. And is happy when its back in. Any advice? I'm exhausted.

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I did find that the binkies with a nub on the end don't fall out as easily as the soothies. My son so far likes every binky that he's given, but spits them out when he goes into a deep sleep and is easy to soothe without it as well. The only problem with my son is that he is soothed by the binky so I want him to use it (plus it reduces the risk of SIDS in the first 6 months as well as being good for their teeth as opposed to anything else they could suck on) and he doesn't have a really great hold on the binkies. He's 5 weeks old as well (will be 6 weeks this thursday) and he's already trying to grab and pull the binky towards him (he got one yesterday and was so excited, but couldn't get it in his mouth...) and will try to hold the binky in his mouth so it won't fall out sometimes.

What I do remember being told though is that they have to learn how to use the binky. It's not as natural to keep it in their mouth. So the first few weeks you try to pull the binky away from them rather than put it in their mouth, tugging at it until they get a good latch and play tug-o-war sort of with you. It helps them figure out what muscles to use.

Something to keep in mind though is that if they continually spit it out, they don't want it. Yeah, they may take it and calm, but in reality they need something else. With my son, if he spits out the binky continually then he's hungry. He's starting to inch his way to needing 5oz of formula now every 2-3 hours (normally he has needed 4oz.) Last night I gave him his usual 4oz and he wouldn't take the binky for more than a few minutes before spitting it out. I made him another 2 oz and he ate that. He wasn't starving, but he wasn't comfortably full yet.

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bye bye binkies...?

Q. My 20 month old still sucks on her binkies at night and bed time and whenever she has a hard time. How can I get rid of binkies without inturupting her sleep? Her doctor says they are starting to pull her teeth apart. They are not available for her all the time and she can't get them when ever she wants. She just got a little brother and now wants them when ever I have to do things with brother. Any good ideas are welcomed.
just so you know... My son that is 2 months old has different binkies and she will still his if I don't keep them and him out of her reach. How do i stop that as well?

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Hey, this is an issue I'm dealing with as well, but my daughter is now closer to 3 than 2. She became a big sister 7 months ago, and is also in the middle of potty training, so I'm not completely taking it away from her yet. Here's what we do: I have a little basket hanging in her room called "The Binky Basket". Every night when she goes to bed, I wait for her to ask me for one, and I give it to her. In the morning, she knows that we put the binky in the binky basket. Now she's gotten into the habit of saying "Time to put the binky in the basket" every morning! When she cries or is having a hard time, I make sure to give her lots of hugs, and I try to distract her with a song (something with fun movement like Itsy Bitsy Spider), a story book, a phone call to daddy at work or maybe to grandma. She has learned to tell me where her "boo-boos" are, and wants me to kiss them. Sometimes I'll give her a sticker or a band-aid to put on them. Basically, I just try to think of things that make ME feel better when I'm getting overwhelmed or frustrated or tired--she usually likes the same things. I know it's hard with a new baby, but make a point to spend special time with her every day--through that special time you'll develop little inside jokes and things that you can pull out when you need to comfort her in a pinch.
About the teeth thing--I was told not to worry about that too much. One of my friends has a 6-year-old who had this problem, and she said the teeth went back to normal as soon as the binky went away, and that her doctor told her she shouldn't worry about it too much since they're baby teeth and they'll fall out anyway. But I live in the south, and doctors aren't always reliable here--so I'm still not sure. All I know is that I don't want to pressure my daughter to drop the binky right now because she's going through so many other big changes. I guess I figure braces will be better than having to give her therapy! ;)

binkys and age, when and how?

mommyof2

how old (if ever) was your child on the binki, and how did you suceed in getting rid of it? my child is 20 months which I feel like he is way to old for a binki and im restricting it but I find that it will be very hard to accomplish

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Not sure what a binky is, never heard of it before! Am assuming it's a blanket./ muslim, and if so I think at 20 months your child is just fine to keep using it and needing it as much as she wants. I work in a day nursery in the preschool room; 2yrs 9mths to nearly 5, and some of the younger ones bring in their muslim every day (they do have to leave them in their drawers, but they come to nursery holding it), even some of the older ones bring in the same muslim or soft toy every day. If she needs it in her hands ALL the time I would maybe think about trying to stop her reliance on it. A good thing with this age group is to create a story around the situation. Maybe one of her toys is sad and feeling poorly, tuck him up in bed with her muslim and leave him to sleepp for a little while, then provide an exciting activity for her which involved 2 hands- making biscuits? Go back and check on the toy when you are done and he will be feeling better! The importnat thing is to decide how much you want to do it, and if you're not sure how much she relies on it, maybe suggest it as a question, if she starts crying and you don't want that then say, no, that's not a good idea, and try something else. If you have her give muslim to her toy and then she cries and then give it back you have made it harder for yourself in the future. If you feel she must let go of it for periods, and she cries, then distract her, again, with a pre-prepared fun activity, and she will learn to be without it. We have a new child who has a bear she sucks and I'm afraid we have made her do without it at meal times and cooking activities at nursery because it actually has mould on it! She cried at first, but now she's fine and very happy!
If you want her to go without it completely- maybe in a few years, then a good game is, again the story- fairies need it to make blankets for their babies with, the pirates need it as their ship has lost it's sail- whatever you know will excite her. Give her a special box/ bag to put it in remove it in the night and replace with a suitable gift- fairy wings for dressing up or a pirate hat!
Good luck, and remember not to worry too much, she won't be taking it to school with her, she'll not want to look like a baby, and for now, it's fine!

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binkys and age, when and how?

mommyof2

how old (if ever) was your child on the binki, and how did you suceed in getting rid of it? my child is 20 months which I feel like he is way to old for a binki and im restricting it but I find that it will be very hard to accomplish

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Not sure what a binky is, never heard of it before! Am assuming it's a blanket./ muslim, and if so I think at 20 months your child is just fine to keep using it and needing it as much as she wants. I work in a day nursery in the preschool room; 2yrs 9mths to nearly 5, and some of the younger ones bring in their muslim every day (they do have to leave them in their drawers, but they come to nursery holding it), even some of the older ones bring in the same muslim or soft toy every day. If she needs it in her hands ALL the time I would maybe think about trying to stop her reliance on it. A good thing with this age group is to create a story around the situation. Maybe one of her toys is sad and feeling poorly, tuck him up in bed with her muslim and leave him to sleepp for a little while, then provide an exciting activity for her which involved 2 hands- making biscuits? Go back and check on the toy when you are done and he will be feeling better! The importnat thing is to decide how much you want to do it, and if you're not sure how much she relies on it, maybe suggest it as a question, if she starts crying and you don't want that then say, no, that's not a good idea, and try something else. If you have her give muslim to her toy and then she cries and then give it back you have made it harder for yourself in the future. If you feel she must let go of it for periods, and she cries, then distract her, again, with a pre-prepared fun activity, and she will learn to be without it. We have a new child who has a bear she sucks and I'm afraid we have made her do without it at meal times and cooking activities at nursery because it actually has mould on it! She cried at first, but now she's fine and very happy!
If you want her to go without it completely- maybe in a few years, then a good game is, again the story- fairies need it to make blankets for their babies with, the pirates need it as their ship has lost it's sail- whatever you know will excite her. Give her a special box/ bag to put it in remove it in the night and replace with a suitable gift- fairy wings for dressing up or a pirate hat!
Good luck, and remember not to worry too much, she won't be taking it to school with her, she'll not want to look like a baby, and for now, it's fine!

binky or thumb?

punished_p

My three year old who is entirely too old for a binky has taken to sucking her thumb since I took her binkys away. Not only am I worried this may be worse for her mouth, and I can't take it away like I can the binky, but she is getting sores on her thumb from sucking on it hard over night. Should i give in and giver her back the binkys for a bit longer? Or should i stick to my guns and let her ruin her teeth and her thumb? Any other ideas?

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My son did this. He's now 2 years old with a binky. We can't break him of it even more now because he thinks "if they take them away for a while, they'll eventually give them back".. I regret giving them back to him at all costs and often feel like I'll never break him of it.. again.
I think if you've conquered the binky-break, you should now conquer the thumb-break, but NOT by giving the binky's back.

Stick to your guns. If you see her sucking her thumb, try to distract her-- or you could buy that nasty tasting stuff to stop nail-biting called "THUMB". But I wouldn't worry about it too much, she'll eventually grow out of it.
(I have heard thumb ruins teeth more, but only if it's super excessively) Good luck!

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